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The Benefits of Joint Custody and Co-Parenting for your Child’s Well Being

Co-Parenting in a Joint Custody Arrangement

Co-Parenting in a Joint Custody Arrangement

Your child may mean the world to you, but in a divorce, it’s important for parents to realize that spending time with each child is what brings the most value to the child. For some couples, joint custody and  co-parenting is the only option, as it allows each parent to have a say in their child’s upbringing. For others, joint custody is a tough decision, as there may be history of abuse or just personal reasons for one parent wanting sole custody. However, as long as your child’s safety won’t be compromised, you may want to consider these benefits of joint custody.

 

Joint custody encourages co-parenting.

Just because you and your ex have joint custody doesn’t mean you will each raise your child the same and have the same rules and consequences. However, many couples have found that joint custody does create a balance between exes and encourages them to co-parent. After all, by doing so, you and your ex will share the same rules and punishments for each household, and you’ll have someone to back you if your child ever becomes difficult. And even though you’ll be in separate houses, this type of teamwork—while it may be frustrating to your child when they’re in trouble—will also provide a balanced upbringing that provides plenty of benefits.

 

Joint custody encourages shared expenses.

Child support payments and arrangements will vary by state and by case. In some joint custody arrangements, one parent does still pay child support to the other. However, in others, sometimes joint custody eliminates the need for child support payments. No matter how your situation falls, joint custody does encourage shared expenses for the child. For instance, you and your ex can agree to split the cost of doctor bills, extracurricular activities, school registration fees, etc. This helps to ease the burden financially (while also forcing you two to communicate with one another.)

 

Joint custody gives you a routine.

Joint custody arrangements give you and your child a routine, as everyone knows the schedule and what days the child will be with which parent. Not only does this type of routine help your child, but it also lets you schedule your own life. For instance, if you have to schedule something for work or you just want to go out with friends and have a night on the town, you can do so. That’s because you’ll know exactly what days you’ll be free, and you won’t have to worry about finding a babysitter or getting home early.

 

Joint custody makes you enjoy the little things.

As a parent, you know that sometimes your child can drive you crazy, and there will be times when you feel as if all you do is argue, clean up after, or just feel overwhelmed by your child. First of all, this is normal, so don’t feel like you’re a bad parent. And second of all, when you’re in a joint custody situation, you now have a break, which gives you time to appreciate the little things. For instance, since you may not spend quality time with your child every day, it will encourage you to do more fun things and create more lasting memories with your child. In addition, it will also make you appreciate them, as absence makes the heart grow fonder.

 

Even if your divorce was messy and emotional, realize there is a sunny side to splitting custody with your ex. Joint custody is a great way for many parents to remain active in the child’s life and still have access to all the wonderful events that come with raising a child. Most importantly, when you co-parent, it creates a relaxed and safe environment for your child. He or she will know that they are not stuck in the middle of a battle between their parents.

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Leaving The State with Your Child for a New Job

If you are divorced or have a child our of wedlock with your Ex, the situation could arise where you might want to leave the state with your child in order to obtain employment in another state.  This is one situation that is always based on a case by case scenario and what’s already been established in your previous child custody order, but can really be a hard if the other parent is objecting to such a move.  When objected you will have to have burden of proof that shows that your child will be better off where you are going.

 

Lots of Factors to Think About

State Laws

One of the biggest things that will affect whether or not you can leave the state that you live in with your child are state laws.  State laws can drastically vary by state so depending on where you live it could be hard or easy to move to another state.

 

Distance of Move

Another thing that you should consider is how far away you are moving.  If you are moving within 150 miles of your home, it is going to be easier to move then if you are planning on moving further away.  Thinking about how the child will be able to see the other parent on a regular basis will be important when you are planning a move.

 

Visitation Schedule

 Ensuring that the other parent has liberal visitation is also important when you are moving.  Making sure that you present a schedule that is going to accommodate the other parent’s visitation is important.  Prepare to give up a considerable amount of your time with your child when they are not in school as they are likely going to be with the other parent the majority of the time.  If your child is not school aged, then it might work for them to be able to spend periods of one month at a time with each parent.  Holidays and school breaks are also things that you will need to think about.

 

Quality of Life

Another thing that you will want to do is make sure that you are improving your child’s quality of life.  This means that you are going to prove that your child has a top education and that they are going to be able to do the things that they did where you are currently living.  Sports schedules, extra-curricular activities, and the school’s overall rating is very important.

 

Steps You Need to Take

There are many steps that you need to take to be able to move with your child to another state.  The following is a list of the steps that you should take to ensure that you will be able to move as you wish.

 

Step 1 – Get a Job

The first thing that you are going to need is a job offer.  Make sure that you are applying for the right type of jobs that will be careers.  If the job is one that you can find where you live, then there is no reason for you to move anywhere else.  Finding a government job is one thing that you might want to consider.

 

Step 2 – Talk to Your Child’s Other Parent

The next step that you should take is that you want to make sure that you are talking with your child’s other parent.  If you can get the other parent on board and you can agree to terms for the move, then it is going to work out best for the both of you.  If you can’t get them on board it could end up in a full trial.

 

Step 3 – Talk to a Legal Professional

If the other parent is not on board, then you will likely end up going to trial before you can remove the child from the state that you are currently living in.  If the other parent is on board, the attorney will only be needed for paperwork that will need to be signed by a judge.  Depending on if you go to trial this can be something that does not cost much or something that ends up costing a lot, so make sure that you are evaluating all options to stay in the state with child if the other parent is opposed.

Even though living in the same state as your child’s other parent is typically ideal, there are many factors that might be in play where your child would be moved out of state.  If you are considering moving your child, there are a lot of things that could factor into a judge’s decision on what would be best for your children.

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