Tips for Successful Co-Parenting at School

With the holidays past and kids are headed back to school, a whole new set of co-parenting problems need to be handled. How you are going to successfully co-parent at school will determine how your child succeeds in school. If school becomes another war zone, then your child is less likely to be successful.

If you do not get along with your ex, the school situation is going to be quite difficult If you do get along, that will certainly help smooth the process. The school year can be stressful for any parent but for those who are co-parenting the stress level can significantly increase. Co-parents need to have a plan so that they can avoid conflict over their children’s education.

Understand Court Documents

One of the first things that you will need to do when you are trying to be successful co-parents with your child’s education is understand what your court documents say and mean. Consult your paperwork so that you understand exactly what rights you have.

Some court documents require that parents make joint decisions about things like education while others have one appointed parent who is going to be the main decision maker. If you have joint communication and get along well then there is no reason that you should not be able to make decisions together. If you don’t communicate well or have some other issue, then one of the parents was likely appointed during court to be the main decision maker and that parent will have that power with education-related decisions.

Come Up with a Plan at School

Next, the two of you should discuss the plan for when your child is at school. Figuring out everything from who is the main point of contact in emergencies, to who attends parent-teacher conferences are important decisions to make so that you can inform the school and teachers. This way everything can be agreed upon and it is not confusing for the school or teachers. If you cannot talk, write down everything that each of you want, and then do some back-and-forth with compromise to reach an agreement. When you go to the school with your plan, it’s essential to have all court papers and documents in hand.

Plan Who Will Attend School Events

One thing that you should decide upon before you go to the school is how you will handle the two of you attending school events. The best way to go about this is to logically consider the parents’ work schedules and who will be available during the different times. One parent might find that it works best for them to do the things during school hours while it works out better for the other parent to do those that are happening after school. It also might work out that parents need to trade the events that they will attend with the child or that both parents can attend events together. Just have a plan ahead of time so that you both know the expectations for who will be at the child’s events and activities.

Plan Who Will Fill Out Paperwork/Be Contacted First

Typically, it is easiest for the custodial parent to be contacted first with any child. However, there are times when this might not be what is best for the children. Think about where each parent works/lives and who can get to the child’s school quicker. Also consider if one parent has other children in the same school and whether or not the parent who is being contacted can relay information back to the other parent.

What to Let Teachers Know

Teachers do not need to know about all the dirt that you have on your ex. It is obvious to everyone involved that an ex is an ex for a reason. So, keep yourself clear headed when talking to teachers or others at your child’s school. Think about how you can put into words simply what each parent’s expectations are. Let the teacher know if different parents are picking up/dropping off and what days that is happening. A set schedule is a good idea when possible. When this is not possible, it might be necessary to send your child’s teacher a weekly note outlining who will be taking and picking up the child each day.

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